Trauma is at the root of all pain and imbalance
If suppressed, ignored or downplayed, trauma can derail everything. Until healed, you’ll re-experience your trauma biochemically, energetically + emotionally over and over again.
You may even be holding onto trauma you don’t remember experiencing or didn’t actually experience yourself {as in the case of generational and ancestral trauma}.
Trauma, Redefined
Your trauma is your experience.
Comparing your experience to someone else’s definition of trauma is pointless and disempowering. Never judge your experience as less deserving of healing because you think it’s not as terrible as what happened to someone else.
Many of my clients have gotten stuck because they believe they don’t have “big” traumas but they have physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual symptoms that just won’t resolve. What is sometimes called “lower-case T trauma” is insidious- creating problematic programming, patterning, and beliefs that many people never address because “nothing awful happened to me.”
Only you decide whether or not your experience was traumatic. When you fully assume that power, you can begin to change your relationship with what happened.
It may sound impossible now, but you really can have a more useful relationship with trauma: only YOU can define your future relationship with your traumatic past.
But all relationships require responsibility, integrity, honesty, and intentional effort. The real you must get real present in order to move past the pain and into healing.
Trauma- and the triggers that cause you to re-experience it- can be truly excruciating.
Avoiding being re-triggered is at the root of dysfunction that shows up in countless ways {in unconscious attempts to keep yourself safe}, but is also preventing your healing.
The thread of this dysfunction must be traced back and gently shaken loose.
We painlessly address subconscious self-sabotage to shift you from coping to healing to thriving.
You may even feel like you’ve moved beyond what happened but something is still keeping you from being present in your own body and moving from surviving into thriving.
The energetic body may still be holding onto trauma when you feel like your head and heart have healed. It’s not doing this to hurt you, but to keep you safe. Our work is to strengthen your internal safety, so you bodymind doesn’t feel it has to stay hypervigilant to keep you safe from the external.
When trauma occurs, it occurs in all your bodies: physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and energetic.
HEALING MUST OCCUR IN ALL YOUR BODIES, TOO.
Why Trauma is Traumatic
When you feel afraid or unsafe, your autonomic nervous system is activated, putting you into a state of extreme stress response: fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. Your biology focuses only on survival because that’s all that matters when you’re threatened.
In that state, it’s biologically impossible to rest, rejuvenate, and heal. Over time, dysfunction on every level builds.
Know this: it won’t get better ONLY with time passing. Here’s why:
the biochemical effects of stress wreak havoc on body, mind, and spirit.
the nervous system remains dysregulated for as long as the trauma remains unhealed; you biochemically re-experience what happened with every subsequent trigger.
there’s no workaround; injury must be healed on all levels for you to move beyond dysfunction and into a redefined, whole, and evolved life.
We work both consciously and subconsciously to address the physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and energetic bodies. If you’re thinking, “There’s no way I can re-engage with what happened,” you don’t have to. We work energetically with the subconscious to painlessly allow you to shift without re-traumatization.
You can then safely bring your conscious self {with stuff like goals, intention, and strategy} back to the relationship more productively. Next steps become more clear. Motivation and follow-through return.
Once you get.outta.your.own.way you can align with what you want, better see how to get there, and maximize your efforts.
No matter what you’ve experienced, you can heal and thrive.
Exactly what you need next is already showing up for you.
I’m happy to help you determine whether or not this work is right for you at this stage in your journey and what you should consider in putting together your healing team and recovery plan.